Tuesday, November 02, 2004

A confession

Being married is complete and utter bliss. This is true no matter how people make fun about the idea of getting married or, how many jokes there are about being married and being trapped! My guess is those are written by people who have undergone very drastic marriages, or by people with one heck of a sense of humor.

Well, a few things need to fall into place in order for a marriage to work out. Firstly, you have to be married to the right person :) By right person what I mean is that you need to be in harmony with your partner. But if you can understand your partner and accept her for who she is, and if she can do the same, then you are married to the right person. I am married to the right person, simply because we understand each other and we have accepted each other! Thank you my love, for accepting me as I am and not trying to change me into someone that I am not :*)

Well, being married to the right person is only the beginning. It's like landing the perfect job. Just because you land the job it doesn't necessarily mean that you are going to be a success unless you perform. In other words, you need to work, hard! If we work hard to succeed in our jobs, in our exams, etc, why not we work hard in our marriages. Leave aside the hard part, how many of us actually work on our relationships. We tend to take our partners for granted once we get married. I am sure that I do the same at times. When pressure builds up at other fronts, the first thing we do is neglect our partners. I know that you would have felt at times that I have taken you for granted. But trust me, I have not.

The secret to a successful marriage is to keep the flame burning. Not just keeping it burning, but also making sure that (s)he knows it's burning inside you. When I was courting, I showered her with little gestures and actions. But since of late, I may have been romantic as I was. I know that the little things matter to you most and those little things have been a little slow to come by!

I think I am learning the art of making a marriage work. It will take time and effort, but I am looking forward eagerly, cos I know the rewards are well worth the effort. I am going to do the funky dance with you in my golden wedding anniversary. That's a promise that I give myself!

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